So it’s been really a long time since I’ve actually posted. I just reread my last post and boy were they depressing. So quick update, I have been actively listening to and reading Abraham Hicks. Actually it is Esther Hicks that speaks through Abraham Hicks and that does sound weird even to me, however the thought processes that she talks about have really helped in day-to-day life. And that’s really what it’s all about. Getting through your life..
This is testing my speaking and also the new editor on WordPress
Last few weeks have been totally depressing and disheartening to say the least! Things that came “out of the blue” and just daily struggles to make ends meet keep happening. One day at a time is fine when you only have a few bad days, but weeks and weeks of bombardment can be harrowing. Am still clinging to the Master Key System, which is basically Change your thoughts thinking. This, after bad thinking lol! All these ideas about money! Money can’t buy happiness! No, that is true, there are people who have millions and are still unhappy. But we are talking about an average everyday person here, who could seriously use a small windfall to get through the days without feeling like she’s on a treadmill to nowhere!
Maybe I will set up a GoFund me account. But you have to be seriously maimed or dying to get any help. Even I wouldn’t donate to an upper midlife lady who is just really really tired! So need to get off my butt and kick some ass. Does it ever end? I have children and grandchildren who really have no idea of the struggle it is just to exist and keep working. When one is younger, there is hope and confidence, when one is older there is resignation and despair! What is the answer? Keep on keeping on, look up and keep smiling. What else can you do, really?
Okay, life does not just stop and let you lounge around take it easy. I think many of us tend to think, “If we just had more money.” or “If we just did this or that.” then everything would be better forever. Not happening! No matter what you do in life, whether you constantly monitor your thoughts, your words, your food intake, life still happens and you need to deal with it.
So how does one deal with surprises and unexpected events. Well, first you need to decide on a scale of 1-10 how you are actually affected by whatever has happened. Obviously a death of a close person or animal is more than likely a 10, whereas your newly painted fingernail falling off might be a 1! Once you have given your event a # then you need to apply the previously thought out amount of effort into that event and move on. If you apply a 10 to something, then it is a major event and it will take a major effort and amount of time to get through it, but you can if you keep yourself intact.
Let’s go back to the fingernail event. Say you just broke part of your nail and you just had your nails done because you are going somewhere important. This could almost be a #2 in the realm of things!! However, in the scheme of life, it really is a – 5!!!! Losing a nail is not usually something you are even going to remember, unless of course the whole nail came off and then you are probably up to an 8!
My point here is to make a list 1-10 and then label each number with your assessment of what effort, thought and time you can alot to that number. Then when an event comes up that you were unprepared for you can simply check your list and pick a number that you think is appropriate and go from there.
Heres’s a sample
- Passing thought, move on
- Think, question, then move on
- Think, question, think, then move on
- Think, question, add a minute or two, think, then move on
- Think, question, add a half hour, think, then move on
- Think, question, add an hour, think, then move on
- Think, question, add a half day, think, then move on
- Think, question, add a day, think, then move on
- Think, question, add a week, think, then move on
- Think, question, think, add as much time as you think you need, think and then move on
You will notice that all the above have questions. This means that when something happens to you or around you that is upsetting, you first Think about it. Second, question what it means to you and/or your close people. Third give it a time frame that you feel you can feasibly spend on this thought of whatever happened (pick a number). Then rethink a solution, or if there is no working solution, you may have to give it a higher number, but in the end everything has a solution so you need to MOVE ON!
It’s important to realize that there IS a solution to everything. The solution may not be what you prefer, or you may not see the solution immediately. Sometimes, if you do not come up with the solution, you still need to move on and trust that the solution will appear to you when needed.
The whole point is to not stress about daily living. Just keep on chugging along and let the Universe seep in. Accept what you have in life and try to make yourself happy with your living situation, keeping in mind that Everything Changes!
Some days, for absolutely no reason at all, we can just wake up depressed! This has happened to me numerous times in my life and even though I know that it will pass, it still makes me angry. This morning was one of those days. I had a great day yesterday, at the beach, nice dinner, etc and went to bed happy. By 5 am I was awake with the usual anxiety and by the time I got out of bed, was feeling depressed. Not excessively, but just an underlying current of depression. What causes this? I hate to say it but I have no professional idea. I do, however have a personal idea. When you are a depressive person and have a good day, your brain automatically seeks to go back to its comfort zone, where you are unhappy. The reason I think this is because if I move around, make myself do stuff and get my mind off it, it seems to lessen. If, on the other hand, I spend time dwelling on it, then it gets worse and becomes a “thing”. Bottom line, we are what we think! Another Master Key System bit of knowledge.
If you want to change your day, then change your thoughts. Make yourself change your thoughts and don’t let the other thoughts sneakily creep back in there because your thoughts are what your day will be! Think about that for a bit and let it sink in!
I figured this would be a catchy title for a new blog post. In all actuality there are lots of online remedies for living a stress free life. Of course, everyone is in a different position with different perceptions so this will only cover the absolute basics for the moment.
- First, stop everything to read this post
- Second pay attention to your surroundings, are you at a desk, in a living room, in a car, in an office waiting for someone?
- Third, contemplate why you zeroed in on this post. Are you feeling stressed?
First, there is no such thing as a stress free life. Even if you master all the points I am about to make, you will have “outside influences”. These influences can take many forms, be it children, husbands, wives, doctors, jobs, weather, financial difficulties, health, family. The list is endless.
The only way to actually be able to live without constant stress is to manage your actual thinking. Change your perceptions and change your expectations!
I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction, but not exactly in the way I see it portrayed on so many websites and in millions of books, so by changing your expectations I am not saying to not envision the life you always wanted. What I mean is to put out there what you want, but accept what you get, always striving for more but having gratitude for what you have. It might not be too far from the truth to think that some LOA writers have simply changed their lives by actually writing about it!
Changing your perceptions is a little different. You will need to make a concious effort to tell yourself things that you think you already know are not correct!
For Instance, we all have ingrained ideas from childhood. Some we do not even realize. These ideas immediately cause us to make judgements. We see a person and make a judgement, subconciously! That person is young, happy, old, tired, mean, friendly, poor. The list goes on. Maybe they simply look something like someone we had an issue with years ago, but our subconcious automatically puts us on alert! Or conversely, they look like someone we really cared for and our subconcious makes us feel favorable torwards them, automatically endowing them with characteristics. Ask yourself, when you meet someone new, why you have immediate reactions to people and try to remove those feelings.
This is the first in a full series. Keep reading!